Why I don’t think I am cut out to be a stay at home Mum

Some Mum’s are great at arts and crafts, baking, and general “Mumming” I don’t really fall in to this category.

Don’t get me wrong I will give arts and crafts a bloody good go, and I am the biggest fan of trying all things Pinterest. Cornflake cakes need making I am the gal to call. But doing that everyday I don’t think it is for me.

Now, I love my daughter more than I love myself. But I don’t think that being at home with her every day is for me. I actually enjoy (ok, maybe enjoy is a bit strong), I like going to work. It is nice to be Emma for a few hours, and not mum.

Don’t get me wrong, if being at home was an option maybe I would feel completely different. And I am sure that Mum’s that stay at home are reading this and saying to themselves, being at home is bloody hard work, and we do more then arts and crafts. And you know what, your right, going to work is sometimes a luxury.

For example these are just a few things that make going to work worth it;

  • Hot coffee
  • toilet breaks without an audience
  • no one shouting “Mummmmmmmmmmmmy”
  • A whole hour to eat my lunch without anyone deciding that they want to eat it instead of theirs

The downside of being at work is that you feel like utter crap for not being with your child. You have FOMA over every little thing. Chloe started nursery just after her first birthday and I was so worried that nursery would witness her first step before us (luckily she saved it for us)

There is also the judgement. You are judged for going back to work to early, you are judged for not going back to work. Well you know what Ruth with the wonderful life, mind your own God damn business!

I do feel that there are some plus points to staying at home, these for me would be

  • No dress code, PJ’s and no bra is not a look I can get away with in the office
  • You can eat pretty much what you want without anyone judging you
  • Repeats of Real Housewives on ITVBE (this for me is the real winner)

Like I said, perhaps I feel like this because staying at home isn’t an option and never has been. But who knows, maybe I am not cut out to be a stay at home mum.

Mummy Em x

One thought on “Why I don’t think I am cut out to be a stay at home Mum

  1. I had to go back to work part time after our first son was born. But we moved house and made some changes so that we could afford for me to give up work after our second son was born, because I absolutely wanted to be able to stay at home with him.

    I remember my husband coming home from work, utterly surprised by the response of his female colleagues as they had all been astounded and told him clearly that they would not stay at home with the children all day as it was much harder at home than in work.

    I do miss the mental rest that work gave. Sometimes, by evening, I am craving silence!

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