Is there a good time to try for baby number 2?
There have been a lot of discussions in the Devere House at the moment about when is a good time to try for baby number 2?
Chloe is going to be starting school in September, so I sort of feel that this would be a good time as I wouldn’t have 2 at home all the time. But I would have just got over paying the ridiculous nursery fees, so having a 2nd child would mean paying all that money all over again.
Part of me would love another baby. I would love to go through the whole experience again, this time a little wiser and clued up (I hope) and to enjoy it properly as in the first few months with Chloe, I am ashamed to admit I didn’t particularly enjoy thanks mainly to post-natal depression.But also a big part of me is happy how we are, a triangle of happiness. We can give Chloe all the love she needs and we are in a position that we can treat her to what she wants and go on weekend trips to LegoLand. If we were to have another baby we would have to tighten our belts and I would have to go back to part time hours at work.
There is a part of me that also feels selfish for not giving Chloe a sibling. Is she going to miss out by being an only child? Will she grow up feeling like she missed that special bond siblings have? Will she grow up with “only child syndrome?”
I have come to realise that there is never really a right time to have another child. I don’t think unless you’re a Beckham you will ever have enough money saved, or won’t have months were you are stressed about paying all the bills due to the ridiculous stupid maternity pay you receive. Unless you are lucky enough to live close to family (we are not) you will have no options but to pay out for childcare for 4 years which works out to the same as a deposit for a house.
And plus there is also Mother Nature to contend with. Although I may still think I’m 18, I am approaching 36 this year which puts me at high risk and although we were very lucky to get pregnant very quickly with Chloe who is to say this time we would be that lucky?
So, no I don’t think there is ever a good time to have a baby number 2, but I suppose you never know what is round the corner.
Mummy Em x